Day 73: Positivity

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours” - Swedish Proverb

Live a positive life. Think positively. Remove the negative thoughts and the negativity in life.

I want to succeed, and be successful in all that I do, I need to be more optimistic, and hopeful about life and my future. I have to live life, and take risks. Without taking risks, you never know what you can gain and achieve. Life is amazing when you live it, and let life be.

I need to smile more, and think more positively. Stop thinking about all the bad things that could happen, and the possibility of failure. Planning for the possibility of failure, is setting yourself up to accept failure. Failure in life is not an option, at any time, at any moment, for anything. Failure is miserable, and it has no

Wake up and smile, breath in, relax, enjoy life. Go for a walk, go to the gym. Love life, and let life be. Life is too damn short to be miserable. Time just flies by, and the only guaranteed is the moment we're living in right now. Enjoy every moment, live life to the fullest.

Positive people, attract more positive people. Like attracts like. Negativity just breeds more negativity. No one wants to be around negative people. People love to be around positive people.

Day 68: Effort

“In all human affairs there are efforts and there are results, and the strength of the effort is the measure of the result” - James Allen

Apply some effort, some real thought, with physical, and mental activity, to achieve your goals. Don't be careless, do things half heartedly, applying little to no effort; and then expect great results. You will only disappoint yourself. It's one thing to disappoint others, but when you disappoint yourself it's much worse. It hurts, and is very frustrating.

If you have something you want to achieve, if you have something you truly desire; then putting forth 110% effort 100% of the time should be very little to ask for. Anything worth achieving, is worth working hard for. Success does not come easy.

Don't give up when you make mistakes, or things don't go exactly as you plan them to. As long as you know you put in all the effort and thought that you could, then there is nothing else you can do. Just do your best, and you can't be disappointed in yourself. The outcome may not always be what you wanted, but you'll know you did all that you could.

You can't control everything. You can't control the outcome. You can only control yourself, and your actions. What others do, and what the outcome is, are out of your control. Just do your part, and let the rest do it's part. Take each day one day at a time, waking up, and striving to do the best that you can.  Don't be disappointed by others, or the outcome. Just let things be what they are. Nothing ever goes as you expect it go to. You just have to let things be.

Don't stress about the little things. Let things be. Put 110% effort 100% of the time with everything in your life.

Day 63: New

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” - Unknown

I need to lose my fear of new, and expand my life. I need to stop being afraid of trying new things, going new places, and meeting new people.

New is not a dirty word. It is not a scary word. It should be a comforting, happy word. Everyone should enjoy going to new places, trying new things, step out of their comfort zone and try doing things different ways.

You can't get any different results in life, when you continue to do everything the exact same ways. I can't better yourself, if I don't start doing things differently. If I  don't create a new me, I'll just continue being the same me that I've always been. I can't let my past define who I am today. I can only wake up each day, and be the best person I can, taking each day one day at a time. Work towards my goals. Focus on being better. Think before I act. Think before I speak. Stay calm. Breath in. Breath out. Relax.

I want to try new things. I want to go new places. I want to do new things. I want to do things differently. I want to be a better person. I want to be a new me. I want to let go of my regrets, and my failures. I want to focus on me, and my future. Every day is a new day, towards a new me. I want to wake up with a smile every day. I don't want to lay down at the end of the day, not being able to sleep because of how I lived that day.

Live every day, treating people with respect, honor, and integrity. Have courage. Be strong. Be calm. Be positive. Smile. Be happy. Enjoy life.

I want to live every day to the fullest. I want to live each day, knowing that I did the best that I could that day. That I faced life head on. That I lived. That I did what I needed to that day. That I was who I want to be.

Every day is a new day. Live according to my purpose, and my goals. Be who I want to be, every day, 100% of the time.

Day 32: Broken Road

Day 15: Gratitude

"Gratitude is the absolute way to bring more into your life" - unknown

30 Days to a Better Man: Day 5 Cultivate Your Gratitude

I've been slacking a little bit on the 30 Days to a Better Man challenge. Today is Monday, so I'm putting myself back on track today, and going to complete it. Today the challenge is to Cultivate Your Gratitude. Showing your gratitude and appreciate are very important in life, in many ways. Showing your appreciation to in your friendships, relationships, family, and career; will help a long ways.

Negativity, and not showing appreciation for others, is rude, ungrateful and arrogant. As a boss, you should show appreciation to your employees, it helps with work morale. No one wants their employees to hate their employer, and the work they do. As a friend, you should show appreciation, to your friends. As a son, brother, and uncle, I should show appreciation to all of my family, who's always been there for me; even when I wasn't worthy. You should show appreciation, and be thankful for all the things, and people in your life.

I know I'm often ungrateful, and I take people and things for granted. Someone does something really nice out of no where for me, and I can barely say thank you. Sometimes it's because I'm nervous, and embarrassed, but it's still rude. I need to always make sure, that I show people how much I appreciate what they've done for me, even in the little things. I am very grateful for the people that have been in my life, and that are still in my life. I appreciate the things they do for me, and that they care about me. I need to make sure that I always be sure that they know this, with my actions, and behaviors towards them. They need to know that I always appreciate them.

Here's ten things I'm grateful for:

1. My Parents. They've both always been there for me, no matter what, even when I definitely deserved a good swift kick to the head and tough love, they always showed me unconditional love.
2. Her, while we are not together anymore, I am very grateful that she came in to my life, and that she still talks to me. She is an amazing person, and she means the world to me. She is my best friend, and she always knows just what to say or do to make me smile. I know she cares about me more than I know. Even when I've been a jerk, or done something completely ridiculous, she's still been there for me. She has an ability to let things go, that I admire. Her smile rivets me.
3. Her family. They've always been very, very nice to me; even when I've been rude, or embarrassing.
4. My brother. While him and I haven't always got a long, or seen eye to eye; he's always been there for me when I needed him.
5. My sister. While we're not as close as we were when we were kids; she's always been there for me when I needed her, and gives great advice about things. She's always shown me unconditional love too.
6. Our dog, that I have with her. She's adorable, and ton of fun to spend time with. She's always full of energy, and always brings a smile to my face.
7. My job. While I hate my job, because of the low pay, and the system of how my job works. I am still thankful that I have a job. Michigan's economy sucks, and the unemployment rate is sky high, but I still have a job.
8. My apartment. While it is small, and quaint, and sometimes my cable is shut off, and I get bored sitting in it; I am thankful that I have it. It is a decent apartment, with good neighbors, and it suits it purpose.
9. My friend N, that lives near me, that hangs out with me sometimes. He's a good guy, have known him my whole life, and we always have a lot of fun when we hang out; even if it's months between, it's like we've never stopped talking.
10. My friend J, while we don't see each other often, because our lives are busy; he's a great guy, and we always have a lot of fun when we get together.

From now on, I'm going to make sure people know I appreciate them, and that I am grateful for all that they do for me. Even just having them as part of my life is something for me to be thankful for.

Be more positive, and always be sure to show my appreciation.