Love and relationships are not easy. They take work. They take fights, conflicts, disagreements, agreements, passion, love, fun, respect, trust and compromises. You have to pick your battles. Somethings are not worth fighting about, and most things really aren't.
Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff.
Over the past 6 months or so, I've learned a few things. One of those things, is that I've been very selfish and uncompromising about a lot of things in my life. It's arrogant and rude; and makes a relationship nearly impossible.
There are somethings in life you should never compromise on, but there are others that you can compromise on. In a relationship, you have to be able to talk things out. Sometimes you'll choose to agree to disagree. Sometimes it requires more effort. You have to meet in the middle, compromise, and find a common ground that you can agree on.
That's something I wasn't always willing to do before. I let my pride, and ignorance take control. My side is not of any more valued than her side, and vice versa. We both have the right to have our own views, and opinions, and goals. In order to make a relationship work though, we both need to be willing to discuss the conflicts, and find a resolution.
We went to dinner last night, and I explained that to her. We both really had a lot of fun. I told her the things that I was previously not willing to budge on, that I am willing to compromise on now. I was willing to compromise on them well before we broke up as well, but it just never came up, we hadn't discussed the issues in several months. She said had she known this before; that it may possibly have changed things. I doubt that it would have, and that's just something I have to live with now. It did really tear at my heart to hear her say that. I wish I would have told her long ago, and I should have.
Never wait to say something that needs to be said.
You never know how important it might be.
Always value, and respect others opinions.
Try to put yourself in their shoes.
Don't lose your values, but be willing to compromise.
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