Day 7: Stage 5 Clinger

I habitually text her too much. I bug her too much.

I need to stop texting her so often. She is my best friend, and we do text each other a lot, and have a lot of conversations in text. But, I do not need to talk to her constantly throughout the day. I don't need to be a stage 5 clinger. It's pathetic. Every time I get bored, I don't have to text her, and I shouldn't. It's annoying. Texting isn't bad, but overly bugging someone with it is rude

Resist from telling her every dumb thought and emotion that I go through. She does not need to be bothered. If I have something I must say to her, save it. Tell her later, in real conversation or wait until she texts me. If she wants to talk to me, she'll call or text me. If she doesn't, than it's probably best to leave her be. Let her enjoy her day, let her live her life. Give her space.

If she does call me, wants to talk, or texts me, don't assume that it's the opportunity and time to ask her to hang out. We all know what happens when we 'assume', we make an 'ass out of you and me'. We don't have to see each other every day, and we shouldn't, especially under the current circumstances.  Let her do what she wants to do, without making her feel guilty. Respect her, give her space. Let her be.

If she wants to hang out with me, great. If she doesn't, that's okay too. If she wants to hang out, I'm sure she'll let me know. I don't have to ask her every single day. If she doesn't ask to hang out, then she obviously doesn't want to. Her not wanting to hang out, does not excuse me to be a asshole, or give her grief about it either. We are just friends. I cannot expect her to want to hang out with me. I must understand and accept that she doesn't always want to hang out with me. I cannot let myself take that personally. I must let her do what she wants to do.